Greetings B’s & G’s (that’s Brides and Grooms if you didn’t know),
Our great friends at Elevate Photography just did this blog post and I thought it would be great to share with all of you.
WHY DO A FIRST LOOK?
One of the biggest questions that our couples battle over when planning their wedding day is whether or not to do the first look. (Where the bride and groom see each other before the ceremony). Many of us grew up with the picture of the groom seeing the bride for the first time walking down the aisle – and weeping tears of joy, of course 🙂 With this in mind, it is hard to imagine the moment not being ruined by having already hung out with each other all day. However, the new standard that today’s little girls are growing up with is the groom patiently waiting for his bride in a private location until the tap on the shoulder and then, still, the tear of joy. Both fantasies work and as long as you plan plenty of time for photos the most important thing to do is stick with your heart and make sure you are happy with whatever choice you make. We will never force our couples to do a first look, but here are some reasons why it might be a good option for you.
1. You tend to get more of the photos you want. Having a first look allows you to have a lot more time before the ceremony to go to multiple locations for photos. It can be a really fun time with your wedding party without the pressure of feeling like you are missing out on your party to take pictures. Having more time will also allow you to get more of the poses and combinations that you wanted.
2. Your day will feel less rushed. A first look helps a TON with making your timeline a lot less intense. There are already so many activities packed into the wedding day, and once the ceremony starts it will seem like everything is moving really fast. If you have already done all of your wedding party photos and most of the portraits of just the two of you, all that will be left after the ceremony will be the family portraits.
3. It calms your nerves. We get the feedback all the time that the first look really helped to calm our couples down and that they were able to enjoy the rest of the day more. We find this is especially true with the grooms who feel like they are under pressure to react a certain way in front of everyone when his bride comes down the aisle.
4. It will most likely be the only time that you two will actually be (nearly) completely alone all day. Your wedding day is about the two of you, so doesn’t it make sense that you would take even just a few minutes to really be alone together in that moment? Having this time before the ceremony really allows you to be together and breathe before it all unfolds.
5. It doesn’t ruin the moment – it enhances it. All of our couples who do a first look tell us that they still got nervous/excited/teared-up/emotional when the actual aisle moment happened. Seeing each other before just allowed them to get to do it twice as well as allowed them to focus on their vows and remember the ceremony better.